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Seizing the Moment

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“I guess sometimes the greatest memories are made in the most unlikely of places, further proof that spontaneity is more rewarding than a meticulously planned life.” Redmerski struck the chord here. It got me thinking about how we waste so much time pondering and procrastinating things while we could have just gotten done with it and have our answers served on a plate. I wish executing this was as easily done as said. Let me take you through my journey (wouldn’t say successful yet) of how I embraced more spontaneity and overcame my fears; how I focused on seizing the moment.

When I was a kid, I shied away and was intimidated easily. I would have the right replies to everyone and everything that seemed wrong but could never get it out. Even now, actually. I would just say it in my head because I was afraid of outcomes, circumstances, and repercussions. I would gulp the words down my throats and keep it to myself. Talking about the things I felt gave me anxiety. I opened up only with my mother. But, even then, I would filter the headlines and keep the deeper stuff to myself.

It all starts at a young age.

A lot of these fears were attributed to the kind of culture that prevailed in the place I lived in. Customs, traditions and age-old rules have always posed as a stigma to what could have been and what is. And, being a girl, it did not make it any easier. Constantly being told what we can do and what we cannot have held us back. Thus, giving rise to fears of failing at things, being made a fool of. It holds us back from trying out new things and that is where fear and lack of spontaneity comes into play.

Sleep did not come easy to me. I would imagine scenarios and conversations that I could have had. I would lie on my bed and think of everything I was told I could not do. Gradually, you accept it.

Your brain assures you that you are really not capable of doing things that you wanted to because you have been told so. “You cannot retort back to your elders”, “You cannot pass that exam”, “you cannot craft that DIY”, “you cannot ride that bike 10 km”, “you cannot make friends easily”, “you cannot laugh so loudly”, “you cannot sit in this manner”, ” and slowly but steadily you start accepting these. When you are repetitively told you cannot do something, you start believing in that. I did, too. Maybe my “cannots” were different than yours, but it leads to the same inference. Fear. Seizing the moment requires an uber amount of courage.

How did I overcome it?

Mostly because of these amazing people I have around me. My mother, especially. She showed me that I could do what I wanted to and no matter what the obstruction, I had overcome those successfully and there was nothing in the world I could not do if I wanted. I figured I was capable of so much more than my “cannot”. When I did not give a damn about what others thought of me and just focused on my betterment, I actually did get there.

I always had a passion for writing and putting my thoughts on a plate. But, I was too afraid of how people would react if I missed a word on the stage or made vague statements. A teacher and a friend of mine, back in school, pushed me into it. They told me that they believed in me and it was all that I needed. I participated in a Debate Competition and bagged the first position. There was no looking back. I was in good shape for “seizing the moment”. I expanded my areas in all the ways I possibly could to the best of my ability. Every time I was shrouded with self-doubt and questions, I would try looking through the eyes of someone who loves me and know immediately how much they trust in me and my capabilities. So, thank you, guys!

Seizing it.

Just last night, I really wanted to do some really good dancing and I and my friends were standing outside a pub and just listening to the music blazing from the inside. We were wearing clothes that were completely Indian and people were sure to judge us. There was this instance, I looked at a friend of mine and asked her if she wanted to join me inside, and she was unsure since the dress code was not “acceptable” but we just followed our guts and ran inside- danced the heck out for a good 30 minutes and came out all happy and new! People stared at us, for sure, but eh, who cares? We seized the moment.carpe diem and seizing the moment

If you guys have read “The Power of your Subconscious Mind”, you know that the conscious mind works exactly by how and what you tell your subconscious mind. If you tell yourself that you are not capable of something, your mind makes sure you don’t. It doesn’t know what is right or wrong, it just follows a command. So, if you tell your brain, “Hon, you can do it!”, you really can. No huge thing was ever accomplished inside your comfort zone.

So, instead of wasting time making plans, convincing yourself to execute them, delving in fear of the unknown, of things that might even be non-existent, postponing actions because of fear and delaying progress, giving millions of excuses as to why this time is not right, why don’t we just do it for once and see what happens? We will have our answers. Right?

So, good luck seizing the moment. Good luck getting over your fears and being spontaneous. That’s how you make memories.

Carpe Diem. 🙂

 

 

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8 thoughts on “Seizing the Moment

  1. Fantastic read! I honestly found this so inspiring to my own life. I have problems with seizing the day/moment and I allow fear to stop me.

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