What was it like to be in love? Did the heavens sing and butterflies flutter inside your tummy? Did you get the chills every time they touched you? Do you remember the weather the day you fell in love? Did you smile just thinking about everything that it would be like to be with them? Did you feel that everything is finally making sense to you? Until it did not anymore. You still feel all of these but for very different reasons. A lot of things can go wrong in relationships but getting cheated on really stands out for me. An incident that makes you question yourself why you weren’t good enough is a feeling all of us would like to be spared.
Relationships are built with trust and love and when one of them decides on the other, the foundation of the whole thing stands at trial. It’s not just in relationships but when you invest quite a lot in something, you expect a form of reciprocation, a value that it can add to your investment. With relationships, it can get tricky since you are investing a huge part of yourself into it, and a lot of the other things that are important to you such as your time, your effort, your energy, and so much more of yourself. Your mind, body, and heart is in that thing. When someone seems to not just ignore that but actually give the same reciprocation to someone else, it is natural to feel let down.
Why Did It Happen To Me?
The only thing to remember every time you ask yourself this question is that this is not about you. There are several reasons why people tend to cheat. Habit, lack of respect for the other person, losing the spark in the relationship, lust and even, just for fun but none of those reasons include the “person” they cheat on. Moving on from something like this can get tough but there’s one thing you should remember- it’s NOT on YOU that you got cheated on. It’s on them.
What Can You Do To Get Over It?
This question only arises if you decide to hold your dignity high and walk away from the relationship rather than forgiving and staying in it. Honestly? I want you to go through with it. Absorb everything you feel, cry it out, hug it out. Healing is important and to heal, one needs to go through the whole process. The more you avoid it, the more suffocating it gets. Let go of all the toxicity and negativity that the situation induces in you. Go over the things again and again that reminds you of them and that hurts you until it does not anymore. Leave no weak points behind for them to crawl back in. But, lastly, forgiveness. It’s important that you forgive them even if they never asked for it. Forgiving will help you slowly let go of them and not harbour any negative feelings
Getting cheated on is a personal experience and I understand what I say might not make things better for you. But, for all of you, who have given a part of yourself to someone with a massive amount of trust and had it handed over to you all crumpled and burnt, you are stronger than what you are feeling right now. Again, it’s not on you. It is on them.
Also, don’t be afraid to fall in love again. 🙂
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