The Best Of You
  1. The clock ticks. You wonder if you sent the right text to the wrong person or the wrong text to the right one. Your heart is racing and your breath feels erratic. 
  2. You failed an interview despite giving your best.
  3. Your brother made a personal attack and you do not understand how he could throw that dirt on you. 
  4. Your teacher said you are the dumbest student she’d ever taught.
  5. A man on the subway cursed you.

Life often presents such situations to you, doesn’t it? Do these situations seem to make you feel less of yourself? Do they make you think that even though you gave the best you could, you still could not reach up to others’ expectations of you? See the irony? The fact that how others see you can make it seem that your own reflection is tainted? The person you tried to nurture so desperately can be completely washed down with others’ impression of you. Oh, how easy it is for them to get the best of you!

We feel what we let ourselves to.

The human mind works in a beautiful and complex way of its own. We lift up other’s lows with such kind words but when the same situation is thrown at us, we pretend like we deserve no kindness. It’s hard enough to live in a world which makes us feel guilty to prioritise oneself; and this additional burden of carrying the guilt of every wrong decision we made in our lives just keeps getting the best of us. 

Who holds the rope in life?

Negative emotions create a deeper impression than the positive ones. The effect that they have on us lasts a long time, and that is the reason when something goes wrong, we immediately recall a whole list of the other bad things that had happened to us in the long past. However, when we experience happiness, we tend to live more in the moment and let go of it as soon as it ends. The bad stuff keeps winning the tug-of-war against the good stuff. 

Getting over the constant leg-pulling.

I know it is easier said than done. I know that in the end, I cannot generalise everything and write two sentences that will sway your pain away because we are all going through different things. But here are a few things that I think might be of help!

  1. You have to remember that these moments shall pass soon- just like any other. 
  2. What someone says to you or does to you is more a reflection of how they feel about themselves rather than what they think about you. 
  3. If you are at peace with yourself and you have good intentions, you will not feel the need to react erratically.
  4. The universe is always trying to keep you away from the negative energies in your life so this just might be a signal. 

There is so much more to us than our worst behaviors, the irrational decisions we make, the repercussions we face due to our bad judgments, and a whole lot of other stupid things that we do. Do not let these get the best of you! 

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  • Alyssa says:

    This is so encouraging, thank you. It’s a reminder that, no matter what I’m going through, this, too, shall pass and we shall see better days once again.

    http://theoverthinkistblog.wordpress.com

  • Retirestyle Travel says:

    good advice. Avoid negative energy and thoughts

  • Meaghan says:

    These are steps everyone should take, sometimes we just need that extra confidence to not let things get inside our head!

    MB | http://www.megbeth.travel.blog

  • Emily Wells says:

    This is a lovely post. It is very true and exaxtly what I needed to read this morning! Thank you for sharing 🙂

    Em x

    https://www.loveemblog.com/2020/05/meet-business-naturally-wrapt.html

  • Lily says:

    This is a great post with a great message that each one of us needs to remind ourselves on a regular basis!

  • Adam says:

    Great post and an important message that needs to be spread. I especially like the points you finish with!

  • LJ Nicolle says:

    A nice affirmative piece, good to have that timely reminder.

  • Brooke says:

    I loved when you said :

    “We lift up other’s lows with such kind words but when the same situation is thrown at us, we pretend like we deserve no kindness.”

    It is so true. We all need to be kinder to ourselves.

  • Margarida Vasconcelos says:

    You are absolutely right 🙂 Such a lovely post, thank you so much to share positivity and good vibes.

  • Natasha MacFarlane says:

    Thank you for sharing!

  • Aislinn Short says:

    Wow i really needed to read this, thank you so much for sharing ❤

  • Lyv | www.LifeWithLyv.com says:

    All great things that I think a lot of us need to here lately… Especially about what other people say being a reflection of themselves and not you! Great post!

  • Eromonsele Emmanuel (ericotrips) says:

    I think it’s best to always be at peace with one’s self regardless. If we can function, without an emotional constraint based on negative daily live experiences from people that don’t really matter then, that is the box.
    I like this, thanks for writing.

  • Jupiter Hadley says:

    This is such a nice post, especially considering how much being stuck indoors makes people feel negative. It’s nice to read.

  • Jen says:

    I love this! The question of who holds the rope is a great one to ask.

  • Manju SM says:

    What some one says to you is a reflection of themselves. Thats exactly what I have been learning in my NLP training session today.

  • Charlotte(lifeasanopenbook) says:

    I LOVE positive posts like this and everything you said is so true. I found it incredibly relatable! Thanks for sharing such a great post!x

  • Lauren says:

    This is such an interesting post! This so useful in thinking positively. Thank you for sharing!

  • Fadima Mooneira says:

    Good post. Thank you for sharing this positive vibe.

  • Prettysam says:

    Absolutely right 👍 I was like that so negative but after joining blog started writing reading other’s work now I think that why I have wasted my energy on people who are not even worth it. Anger only burns you. Very well written article. Last points are very well explained. I like that reflection point the most. I am feeling good actually after reading it.

    https://prettysam1.blogspot.com

  • Matt Winkless says:

    You’re right. We are much more complex than simply the negative things we feel. You put this very well. Thanks for sharing.

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